I am self absorbed, I agree. I have achieved too much to be modest, and that, in the first place, is the opinion of the people surrounding me, it is not my own. Even in the context of VC:MP - my clan members call me 'general' 24/7. What general is a modest general?
Morph, the flaw of being self absorbed is that you're now failing to understand that respect is earned not demanded. Going around saying I am this I am that I deserve this I deserve that, it's not going to make you build good relationships with anyone. Respect is given to those who prove they are worthy of respect; being haughty does not equate to a respected leader. The quality you should be after is assertiveness. The difference? Being assertive has the quality of confidence behind what you believe in but the humility to respect the opinion and input of your own 'followers' if you want to look at them that way, and just people you interact with in general. Never forget that, that is a life lesson, not just a VC:MP one.
Now Morphine and I have engaged in meaningful conversations regarding VU and VC:MP from time to time over the years, so I can attest to the fact that he has been helpful, even if to the public knowledge that isn't readily seen. The fact that we've given him these ranks to our servers is proof enough that he is a respected figure among the community and among us. But we can all agree that we can't live in the past, the reality is what we're seeing in the present, and the present is that this egotism which I didn't know you for is blinding your eyes and probing your actions into perfidious waters.
As TheKing said, we respect your voice, we respect your opinion but it doesn't mean we have to agree to your ideals. We have a diverse culture dealing with in VU, some of us are hotheads, some of us are slow to anger, everyone of us have our own triggers that make us unique. Some give respect to all even if they don't deserve it, some take away their respect the minute you disrespect them. Diverse culture, different mindsets.
The consensus to our ethos handling such a situation is that if aggressive behaviour is unwarranted, no one provoked you, we handle that.
Example:
Morphine: Hi, my name is Morphine, nice to meet you
GangstaRas: Shut-up you Russian dickhead, burn in hell
And I just met the guy...it is a different story then.
Example 2:
Racist VU hosts server
Pakistan player joins
Pakistan player banned. Reason: (get the hell out of here paki-trash)
The consensus to our ethos also dictates that you can't have any ill-feelings to a group of people for the sins of one.
So if I were to use this back and forth between you and ferrari as Example 3, ferrari can look down on you, the provoker, but he can't transfer that view to your friends, your clan members nor your nationals. The respect is to be given on an
individual's merits. Even if your friends, clan members and nationals share your view, unless they gave a explanatory reason why they do, ferrari isn't to look down on them, because the reality of today is that we do have blind sheep that don't know what they're doing and just follow the bigger heads like mindless soldiers. A bitter heart towards such a person is unfair, gets us nowhere as a community and is uncalled for, because they need guidance and we might have to be the one to take on that responsibility one day.
With that said, this is what we mean when we say this is between you and him. What you have effectively done just try to damage the reputation of a member of our clan regardless original intent.
The time you complained about ferrari making the signature he holds to this day as a retort to your previous signature of VU's OG banner, that was a more legitimate issue than this. As you saw, without the explanations from both parties, it looked like an attack from TRC on VU and it looked like an attack from VU on TRC. That needed intervention.
As I've said in my previous post, you provoked ferrari to bite, and he bit. You shouldn't have done that. I'm not justifying him calling you a crackwhore but it is not for us to take action if:
- Our member was provoked and he didn't provoke first
- Our member is keeping the provocation solely on the individual that provoked him
This is between you two to solve my friend